Grief
“ We grieve the loss of something because it was important. The tears are worth it.” “Grief is pain that takes away other pain.” “Grief is your friend, and it will help you succeed at higher levels.” —John Townsend Grief needs to be processed so we can again live a full, rich life. People who don’t process pain may experience reduced performance in various areas of their life. The Tlingit tribe in Alaska has what they call the “Cry Song.” It takes away grief. But you have to sing the Cry Song. And you have to cry. And only then will grief go away. Other cultures have similar rituals. Processing grief might take a few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or years. Allow yourself time to process what was important to you. Seek therapy if needed. Things to mourn: Loss of a person, relationship, money, health, job, or community. Also, rejection, abandonment, mistreatment, didn’t get a nurturing childhood, limits, a failure (even if it pointed you in a better direction), poor decision in th...