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Some people struggle with connecting, and that’s okay. Everyone has their strengths… and quirks. Author Bob Goff says the way to achieve your goals is to help others achieve theirs. So if you want other people to connect with you, try some of these things to connect with them. Learn attunement. First get good at recognizing your own emotions. A feelings chart can help. You can choose one or a dozen emotions you might be feeling right now or in certain situations. Even if those feelings conflict, they’re all valid and true. Then you can attune with others. At first, it might feel like an arbitrary way of talking to someone. But the fact that you’re doing it and with such care means it is real—and it will feel very real and gratifying to the other person. (Contact me for a workshop on how to do this through anseloliver.com ) Sometimes people talk a lot because they’re wanting connection. But if it’s just informational content without emotions, it’s empty. Kinda like eating several boxes...

Note, none of this is medical advice. Perspectives and resources to consider Water. Reduce the intake of toxins by only drinking water that has been filtered with a premium filter, such as a Berkey Filter or a distiller, or water from a spring in a glass bottle. Also, get a premium filter for your shower head—your skin absorbs stuff, too. Food. Eat fresh and organic whole-plant food—fruits, vegetables, grains, nuts, and seeds. Do not eat packaged or processed foods. If you eat meat or eggs, make sure it is organic and has been grass-fed (such as beef), pasture-raised (chickens/eggs) or wild-caught (seafood). Exercise. Walk daily. Do resistance training (such as weights) a few times a week. Don’t over exercise—moderate is plenty sufficient. Sleep. Slow down an hour or so before bed. Turn off screens. Practice mindfulness and peace. Get enough sleep. We need 9-10 hours a night, not 7-8 like many experts claim. Go to bed early and wake up early. Connect. Learn how to connect with oth...